A Dozen Principles for
Keeping Your Love Alive
- Never take your partner for granted. You chose them years ago because of something special, and you’ve already shared a good part of your life. Who better to share the rest of your life with, if you can get past the problems?
- Listen for where your partner’s at, what makes them tick, what turns them on. Listen as though you just met.
- Address disappointments and hurts soon, before resentments grow.
- If you argue repeatedly about the same things, ask your partner (with sincerity) what makes this issue so important. Then ask yourself the same question.
- Take time to enjoy yourselves as a couple: have fun, feel lively and sexy together. Enjoy watching your partner’s enjoyment.
- Be open and trustworthy. Secrets and closedness erode intimacy at an enormous rate.
- Use tough times as an opportunity to show your partner you really care about them. Be caring and nurturing in their time of need. Pitching in will be remembered forever.
- Watch your bad habits. Before you notice it your partner may mistake your laziness and avoidance behaviour as disrespect and lack of love.
- Show appreciation every chance you get.
- Keep your sense of humour. Laugh together, but don’t laugh at each other. If anyone isn’t laughing, it’s not a good joke.
- Romanticize growing old together with your best buddy. Trading your partner for a younger model often has unforeseen side-effects.
- Don’t be afraid to get counselling. A little coaching can go a very long way to turning your relationship into what you want it to be.